The “Don’t Wanters”
I can’t get over some of the men that are out there trying to pick up these days. The ones who talk down to women like we’re dirt or the ones who are so controlled by their mamas that you wonder if they will ever know how to form an opinion of their own! These are just a couple examples of “Don’t Wanters”.
It happens far too often that wonderful, sexy DIVAS like yourself end up falling for a man who is misleading you. Just when you manage to get away from one; you find yourself suckered in by another. Don’t beat yourself up over this, but do learn to spot the signs so that you can run far away from these ‘Don’t Wanters” when they come along with their sweet talk and promises of a better life that they can’t really give you.
Here are some signs to look out for and what they mean:
– He’s animated, fun, charming and looking to settle down, but has had numerous failed relationships and left a lot of women heartbroken along the way. He is the Commitment Phobic.
– He still lives with his mom, even though he makes a decent income and she if self-sufficient and doesn’t really need to be there. He is the Mama’s Boy.
– He is incredibly romantic, seems perfect on paper and really knows how to woo you—not a Player—a Romanticizer which is even worse! This man is always looking for the thrill of the fantasy relationship which means he will move on as soon as the thrill is gone.
– He thinks he is God’s gift to women and can’t stop talking about himself and what makes him so great; an answer for everything and a knows how to double-talk like a champ. He is the Player.
– He is ‘in between jobs’, his car is ‘in the shop’ and he has a lot of really big goals like to make it big in the music biz and always has ‘a lot of projects on the go’. He talks such a good game that you find yourself goin’ off to work while he ‘takes care of things’ from home while living off of you. He is the Pimp-Lazy Ass.
– He is too stylish, too neat, too sensitive and too good to be true because he is the Homosexual Dude! If it looks like a duck…
These are just a few of the types of men that you need to be weary of. You are a sexy DIVA who takes good care of her child(ren) and deserves to find unconditional and everlasting love. Check out my chapter on “Don’t Wanters” in Single Moms Dating Guide to Catching the Man of Your Dreams in 30 Days so that you can be clear on what to get close to and what to run the hell away from!
DontDateHimGirl.com Gives Women A Place To Go and Get Revenge On Jerks
Wow! Long gone are the days where a woman would simply sit back and cry after being burned by a man. I was just on a site called Don’t Date Him Girl where women post the names of men they have dated who turned out to be cheaters, liars and abusers! The site was started a few years ago by a woman who was cheated on by her boyfriend and she decided to post his picture and details online along with her story to get her revenge and keep other girls from making the mistake she did by dating him. It snowballed from there because other women started sending in their stories and pics of the men who had jerked them around. The site now features not only listings of men who have done women wrong, but also dating advice, articles, news and more!
I personally would rather handle a situation a little but more privately, but you gotta give the girl credit for standing up for herself and for the success of her website which has turned into a whole online social community! As a woman who has been burned, you can feel pretty helpless when you realize that the man you loved misled you and treated you like dirt, so there is something cool about seeing women fighting back and helping other woman to not make the same mistake they did.
The site isn’t only limited to getting revenge on lying jerks; it also aims at empowering women and the articles include advice on how to be successful in all areas of your life and it encourages women to share any advice that might be helpful to another woman.
In my book, Single Moms Guide to Catching the Man of Your Dreams in 30 Days, I talk about how important it is to check out a man before you get serious, and this site is one place where you can search his name for free. You never know what you’ll find out!
Checking out the listings of the jerks makes for a pretty fun afternoon if you’ve got nothing else going on and have some time to kill online. You really do see it all; from guys who stole from women to guys giving girls herpes! Nasty!
I Should Have Gotten off AskMen.com While I Was Ahead
After singing the praises of AskMen.com for their great article on dating single moms; I came across their advice for ‘scoring a divorcee’. It’s a part of something they call the ‘Players Guide’—as if being a lying ass is anything to be proud of—and goes on to explain how to basically wine and dine her in order to reap the benefits of screwing a woman who just came out of a potentially boring or controlled marriage!
The article basically portrays divorcees as experienced women who are so starved for attention that they border on desperate and somewhat easy! Then the writer refers to us as ‘minivan-driving, coupon clippers’ who will basically be won over easily if a man spends a few more bucks and shows us what the ‘high life’ feels like! It even goes as far as to advise men to be spontaneous and show her a good time that is the opposite of marriage so that you can convince her that single life is better so that he can really score big.
As a woman who has made all kinds of mistakes in dating, I guess I really can’t do too much judging here, but I can tell you that with some of the jerks, I have a better understanding of where they were getting their dating tips and what may have actually made them jerks! LOL
There was actually an entire list of different advice articles for ‘Players’ and you need to sign up and become a member of the ‘Players Guide’ in order to read the entire piece. Stuff like: Juggling Multiple Women, How to Score Two Women in One Day and my personal favorite, Sleeping With Cougars!
Ladies, I think that by finding these articles I may have discovered the answer to the question that women have been asking for centuries—why are men such jerks?? Now I know why; because these articles are out there telling them that this is the way to behave! Whew—here we were starting to wonder if it was just us.
I’m not knocking all of the content on the site because as mentioned earlier; they did offer some very helpful advice and made some excellent points about dating single moms. For the most part, their love advice seems on track; it’s the ‘Player’s Guide’ that leaves much to be desired. And I pity any man who thinks that he’ll get anything/anyone of quality with those moves. LOL
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