Breaking Up With A Good Guy Because He Is Not The Best Guy For You

Trusting your gut instinct is so important when it comes to dating. It can tell you that things aren’t as perfect as they may have seemed, keep you from dating a guy who is bad news and if you listen to it closely enough; it can let you know when it’s time to let go of a great guy because as great as he is, he’s just not for you.

It may sound silly to a lot of women to know that I have broken up with an amazing man who the right woman would be lucky to have; but I was not the right woman for him and he just wasn’t the right man for me. My book, The Single Moms Dating Guide to Catching the Man of Her Dreams in 30 Days, is not just about going out there and finding any man or even a good man; it’s about finding YOUR dream man the way I found mine. Just because he is smart, sexy, funny and kind does not mean that he is for you. Only you will know when YOUR man has been found even though your friends and your mother will wanna smack you upside the head for setting free a perfectly good man!

One of the reasons why I encourage women to get out there and date as much as they can is because it really can help you to fine tune your instincts and help you learn a lot about yourself and what you want. You may have always thought that your dream man would be a certain height, have a certain hair and eye color and be a specific type, but then after going on a few dates with guys just like that, you realize that stuff ain’t meshin’ quite right, so you decide to open yourself up to another type and all of a sudden; the one who is not that certain height, doesn’t have that certain eye color or and is not at all that specific type; makes your heart sing the second you meet him!

Being a DIVA and finding your dream man is about really truly knowing how to spot the things that will make you the happiest and the overall best person you can be. This doesn’t come from settling for any man who looks your way or from staying with a man just because everyone else thinks he is perfect. You need to build up the strength and the decency to let someone go when you know things aren’t right even though you really wish things could be.

By staying with a good man who isn’t for you means that you are wasting your time and his. Setting him free, as hard as it may be, will leave you free to find your true love and leave him free to do the same. By setting him free you are doing the right thing and being selfless even if it may not seem that way at first. He may feel hurt, but eventually he will realize that you did what was best for both of you.

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