A Few Good Men And Where To Find ‘Em

There are actually more than a few good men out there, now you just need to know where to find them. Before embarking on your mission to find Mr. Right, you should have a little list of what you’re looking for. I’m not saying to be OCD about what’s on your list necessarily though, because you really do need to keep a bit of an open mind here to avoid missing out on someone who could be perfect for you even though he isn’t the 6 foot five model you had placed on your list. Think about the qualities that matter to you the most, for example; single Christian moms would likely place a good Christian who loves kids at the top of her list for obvious reasons and things like that are deal breakers as far as I am concern, but physical attributes and things like that; keep an open mind about. I don’t mean settle for hideous man that you can’t stand the looks of just for the sake of having someone, but you can find love in the most unlikely places; even in a man who isn’t as tall or as fine as you’d placed on your list!

Now, where does a fabulously sexy single mother go to meet men? Everywhere! Armed with that open mind, you could stumble across Mr. Perfect-For-You just about anywhere. Putting yourself out there though takes more than just walking with your eyes wide open and there are methods that you can enlist the help of to increase your exposure to possible sweeties that just might be worthy of you. One of the best ways is to talk to your family and friends who are like untapped resources! Let them know that you’re looking for a good man, because as friends and family, you know that they would not want to see you with anything less than a good person and you can count on them to be selective for you.

Think about men and where they like to go in groups; ruling out the local strip joint or nightclub of course. Sports bars are great because they’re like one big man-buffet! You can pretty much guarantee that all eyes will be on you when you walk into a male dominated place like a sports bar! I personally would rather have a man who is into sports than just drinking at the local bar anyway. (I give my theory on the whole meeting-men-in-bars thing in my book, The Single Moms Dating Guide to Catching the Man of Your Dreams in 30 Days)

There are also things like online dating sites or singles functions like speed dating. Stop rolling your eyes and hear me out! As someone who not only knows what it’s like to be a single mom dating, but a single mom dating after divorce; it can be tough to really get yourself back out there, so creating an online profile and just browsing through the available men can be a really good start. Another great thing about it as that you get to be really specific about what you want and you can be as selective in your process as you like. As for speed dating; don’t knock it till you try it! Remember; you need to keep an open mind and at the very least the experience could be fun. Besides, since you’re only spending a few minutes at a time with each guy, you won’t have to tolerate the ones you don’t like for long! Another good thing about online dating and speed dating is that the men who have enrolled themselves in either are out there looking for a relationship too so at least that is one thing you’ll have in common from the start.

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